We got to matriarchy in the syllabus and patriarchy, and I said, you know, the whole idea of patriarchy and matriarchy portends something called ‘power.’ We might have had these women-centered homes, but it didn’t mean power. These women were not going out there cruising with some high powered jobs, making a whole lot of money, doing steak every night. So I came up with a term—you know teaching makes you do more work—and I came up with a term called diarchy. I said Black families were diarchal, most of them, in that you might have had a woman there, a mother there, but you had a grandmother, you had an uncle, you had some cousins in there. Diarchy happens when a family is under duress, under stress from a society.
That was important, so therefore if you move to diarchy, then you leave the whole arena that Moynihan is talking about matriarchy, talking about ‘these women are the cause for all the problems happening in the Black community,’ and you leave the arena with the men who say ‘well I wanna be a patriarch’ and I say ‘well dude you ain’t making enough money to be a patriarch,’ being facetious, but at the same time saying ‘you didn’t come up in a family like that; tell me about your family?’ Tell me about your family; how is your composition of your family? And everybody, most everybody, most of them had a diarchy; had nothing to do with a matriarchy or patriarchy.
Quote is from a video where she discussed a course on Black women that her students theorized into existence and she taught only a few years after the notoriously anti-Black, misogynoiristic, ahistorical Moynihan report came out (responsible for many straight up lies and stereotypes about Black motherhood and Black families post-Civil War, invoking arbitrary pathology for not mirroring White families, while leaving anti-Blackness and White supremacy blameless).
Here she dissects the false equalization made between matriarchy and patriarchy themselves, and as pertaining to Black families, something I wrote about in Black American Families Are Not “Matriarchal”. There I deconstructed the ahistorical mess of Moynihan and more. I cited Patricia Hill Collins, Angela Davis and bell hooks in that older essay, but damn I would’ve loved to have cited Sonia there.
Anyway, watch that short video! It’s wonderful hearing about how she engages in her classroom on difficult topics on gender, family and more with primarily Black students, especially during that first semester of this particular class back in ‘69.
1. knock knock who’s there boo boo who i know, man, i’m really sad too don’t act like you understand i think i understand a little you don’t understand anything at all well then explain it to me it’s not worth it c’mon, we’ll have a few drinks and we’ll talk it over i can’t …
A woman called 911 for an ambulance because she was worried that her 43-year-old fiance Jack Lamar Roberson was having complications with his diabetes. Instead, a police car showed up, and the officers walked inside and shot him four times. Roberson was unarmed and had his hands in the air when he was shot. His whole family - including his 8-year-old daughter - saw it happen.
Last year, the same county police force was responsible for the shooting of a 26-year-old unarmed black man. All officers are on administrative leave pending an investigation.
“someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. they can love you in a way you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. and whatever their reasons you must leave. because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. you never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. there is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. and there is the love that will be ready.”—nayyirah waheed (via thatkindofwoman)
“As a child I was taught that to tell the truth was often painful. As an adult I have learned that not to tell the truth is more painful, and that the fear of telling the truth — whatever the truth may be — that fear is the most painful sensation of a moral life.”—June Jordan (via ethiopienne)
Language is really complex because the way we speak is a huge part of our identity. So when people attempt to police language, especially the language of marginalized, otherized groups, their preconceptions about what language is and how it works actually become dangerous. Like that’s the only time I will get mad about people discussing language.
Hi! I’m AJ, and I’m a recent graduate of the University of Georgia. Over the past 6 months, I have been searching for a job to both save money for graduate school and also to put a dent in my student loans from my undergraduate studies. Like many others of my generation, I have been unsuccessful thus far, but I’m not going to stop trying.
As of today (October 17), I have exhausted my financial resources. So this is where I turn to you for help. I need to buy the following items to make the next steps in my education possible: • 1 LSAT study manual • 1 GRE study manual • 1 external CD drive for my laptop (most study manuals include a CD, and my disc drive is broken)
Any money donated beyond that will go towards paying the application fees to the graduate programs I am applying to at the University of Georgia, American University, Boston University and the University of Oregon.
I made a short mix for Toddla T’s show on the BBC (Thanks T!) and this is the not so clean version. More mixes coming but thanks so much for all y’all’s love and encouragement :)
Here’s the track list, please look up all these artists and producers, they need your love ;) The Bitches Reply - DJ Jimi Hot Potato Style - Nicky Da B / Prod. by Dizz Da Kidd Then I Got High Bounce Mix - Afroman / Prod. by J Dawg Beat It Out The Frame - Sissy Nobby Ready Or Not Dougie Bounce Mix - Prod. by Showboy CJ 6th Ward Dumaine - Crowd Move Crystal / Prod. by Showboy CJ Rolling In The Deep Bounce Mix - Adele / Prod. by J Dawg for DJ Chicken Iberville - Messy Mya / Prod. by Showboy CJ Express Yourself - Nicky Da B / Prod. by Diplo I Am A Sissy - Sissy Nobby Where Da Melph At - Katey Red / Prod. by Showboy CJ
meaning: to hold it down means to comply, to understand and fall in line with the larger culture of violence within which you are powerless for ‘your own good’, for the sake of your (perceived) longevity.
this third example, then, is in essence to engage the second example of holding down (to give support) on your own behalf, in order to perpetuate the system of oppression exemplified in the first.
One Pennsylvania teen, who is originally from Guinea, recently had to endure his high school rival’s soccer team chanting “Ebola” at him during a match, WPVI reports.
According to the station, Ibrahim Toumkara, a Nazareth Area High School student and soccer player, got into a fight last week after he heard players from rival Northampton High School taunting him about the deadly virus, which has killed more than 4,000 people across West Africa, including in his home country.
"Being from western Africa and having family in that area, he didn’t take too kindly to those remarks and went after one of the players on the Northampton team," the boy’s coach, Edward Bachert, explained. Bachert is also Ibrahim’s legal guardian, as well as a police chief for Lehigh County.
The 16-year-old moved away from Guinea three years ago, the station notes.
"There were tears coming down his eyes. He was visibly shaken by this, that it got to that level on the field," Bachert added.
Ibrahim’s parents are still in West Africa, and according to WPVI, he is constantly worrying for them.
After the tasteless incident, both Northampton’s head soccer coach and its assistant coach resigned. Some of the student athletes are also expected to face disciplinary action, according to the station.
"This is part of the educational process to make sure that students are understanding sportsmanship and what’s happening out there in the world," Northampton Area Superintendent Joseph Kovalchik said.
Since when is a deadly virus funny? When will African lives not be nothing but a comedic piece to westerners?
BREAKING: Michael Dunn, the convicted murderer of Jordan Davis, has been sentenced to life in prison plus 105 years for the 1st degree murder charges and three attempted murder charges, and a weapons charge. Florida got this one right.
I love it when younger girls look up to older girls as role models and heroes. I love it when older girls enthusiastically support and protect younger girls. I love it when girls are psyched about the skills and accomplishments of other girls, I love it when girls compliment each other, take care of each other, encourage each other. I love it when girls realize how awesome and important they are. I love it when girls are fuckin’ pumped about girls.
"Sixty-four days after Michael Brown was killed by a Ferguson, Missouri, police officer, a group of demonstrators began streaming out of the Wellspring Church and into the drizzling rain on South Florissant Road. … At the head of the…